A Woman Remarried and Had a Child for Her New Husband After Waiting 10 Years for Her First Husband, Father of Her First Child That Travelled Overseas?
1) Direct answer
She must leave the second union. Before God she is still bound to her first husband while he lives. She should seek reconciliation with her first husband; if reconciliation is not possible, she must remain unmarried. The second “marriage” should be treated as no marriage before God and ended. Care righteously for the child, but do not continue an adulterous relationship.
2) Scriptural explanation
- “The woman which hath an husband is bound by the law to her husband so long as he liveth… if, while her husband liveth, she be married to another man, she shall be called an adulteress; but if her husband be dead, she is free” (Romans 7:2–3; also 1 Corinthians 7:39).
- “What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder” (Matthew 19:6).
- “Whosoever shall put away his wife, and marry another, committeth adultery… if a woman shall put away her husband, and be married to another, she committeth adultery” (Mark 10:11–12; Luke 16:18).
- If reunion cannot happen, “let her remain unmarried, or be reconciled to her husband” (1 Corinthians 7:10–11).
- Provision for the child must continue: “If any provide not for his own… he hath denied the faith” (1 Timothy 5:8).
3) Simple clarifying logic
- Now notice: a valid marriage ends only by death. Feeling, time, distance, abandonment, or mistaken reports of death do not dissolve the covenant. The Bible ties freedom to remarry to one thing—death.
- Therefore, the first marriage was valid from the beginning and remains binding while he lives. The second union began while a prior covenant still stood, so it is not a marriage before God; it should be ended (annulled in biblical terms).
- Right steps:
- Cease marital relations with the second man and separate lawfully.
- Seek reconciliation with the first husband if he will receive her.
- If he will not, remain unmarried and walk clean.
- Provide and care for the child; the child is innocent and must be lovingly supported by both parents.
- Some will say, “But she thought he was dead.” You see, Scripture does not base covenant on what we thought, but on whether the spouse lives. Only death releases.
4) Required conclusions under the marriage rules
- Before/after conversion: Whether before or after conversion, the first covenant stands while he lives.
- Was the first marriage valid? Yes.
- Does it remain binding? Yes, until death.
- Is separation permitted? Yes—she must separate from the second man immediately; if reconciliation with the first is not possible, she must live unmarried.
- Does annulment apply? Yes—to the second union, because a prior living spouse made a true marriage impossible from the start.
- Is remarriage permitted? No, not while the first husband lives (Romans 7:2–3; 1 Corinthians 7:39).
Final biblical conclusion
End the second union, seek reconciliation with the first husband; if reconciliation is not possible, remain unmarried. Provide for the child faithfully. This is the clean, scriptural way back into order.
Existing Follow-Up Answers
- Are There Real Life Historical Cases Like This in the Secular World?
1) Direct Answer Yes. All through history—especially in times of war, shipwreck, migration, and poor communication—men or women presumed dead lat - Is There a Real Life Historical Case Like This?
1) Direct answer Yes. The Bible gives real historical cases that show exactly this principle. 2) Scriptural explanation - Michal and David: Micha